Thursday, February 16, 2012

REGRETS


I was thinking today about regrets …  the only thing that comes to mind is the times I was too lazy to take Mikaylah out or times I said “No” that I wished I had said yes.  The day before Mikaylah went to the hospital was a Saturday.  I don’t normally work on Saturday at the Arts Council, but I worked that day.  Mikaylah asked me if she could go, but I said, “No.”  I was only going to be gone for a few hours, but sometimes she would get bored when she came to work with me, so I said, “No.”  I can tell you that as a parent I didn’t say no a lot because I always second guess myself and I always love having my kids with me, but this day I said, “No.”  Then when I got home Chris and I had already planned to run to Kohl’s to pick up a few things and then go by McDonalds and bring dinner home.  Mikaylah asked, or should I say demanded she go with us, but once again I said, “No.”  Why did I say no, because it was just going to be a run in and run out trip and I didn’t feel like packing the wheelchair in and out and fighting the crowd.  Excuses… Excuses…  Anyway, as I look back at that Saturday I regret not spending the whole day with her.  Talking with her, putting the wheelchair in and making a longer shopping day.  I did spend time in her room that night bugging her and laying on her bed with her and telling her I loved her, but I could have done so much more that last 24 hours.  Don’t let yourself have regrets.  Don’t take the easy way out with your kids or anyone else.  If this is your last 24 hours with your kids what would you want to spend it doing and do that every day.  It’s not about spending money or just spoiling your kids rotten, it’s about truly loving them and never taking the easy way out.  Those of you who know me know that I truly do spend lots of time with my kids and I have always enjoyed them, but even I have the regret.  God forbid any of you have to actually go through what I am, but if you ever do what regrets would you have?  It’s not too late for most of you take the time to call those you love, forgive those who have hurt you, and most of all be true to yourself, don’t short change yourself; relationships are important and when someone is gone you have a lot of time to think of every missed opportunity, every yelled word of anger, every missed laugh because you weren’t in the mood.  I miss Mikaylah so much and I wished I had spent that last 24 hours differently than what I did!

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http://youtu.be/HNEC735juI4

2 comments:

  1. I often think of these things in life we call regrets, what if's and next times. More often since Mikaylahs passing I find myself stopping at my girls doors at night when I'm in a hurry, think to myself is whatever I'm in a hurry for worth the seconds it could take for whatever I'm putting off. It's sad that it takes life changes and loved one to make us pause in life. We need to step back and take life in but live with no regrets. Thank you for sharing this with us, for sharing your journey as difficult as it is. Just wish I could reach out and hug you everyday. Love you, Mandy

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  2. I am so thankful that walking this journey is helping others! I know that God works all things for the good for those that love Him. Love you and I feel the hugs from a distance!

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